I reflect frequently during my day about something I learned early in my recovery – I need to “practice these principles in all my affairs”. What Principles? Which affairs?
These Principles: Honesty, Hope, Faith, Courage, Integrity, Willingness, Humility, Brotherly Love, Discipline, Perseverance, Awareness, Service.
Which affairs: All of them – moment by moment throughout the day!
When I was about 6 years sober, I read a book by Earnie Larsen entitled Stage II Recovery, Life beyond Addiction. In many ways, it changed my life because it changed my perspective. Here are a couple quotes which I have never forgotten:
“The fact is that what we live with we learn, what we learn we practice, what we practice we become, and what we become has consequences.”
“People don’t become anything all of a sudden. We got where we are, for good or ill, after considerable practice and repeated action. And that’s not only how we got where we are, but it’s precisely how we get somewhere else.”
So little by little, moment by moment, I could start to change how I went through the world, and the consequences of all those tiny actions are beyond my wildest dreams. I am not talking about skipping my way into happy oblivion – I am talking about trudging my way to happy, joyous and free.
So, I would like to start a blog about “how do you practice these principles”? What is your example of a moment in your day and which principle?
Here is one from my day yesterday: I needed to get a recall done on my car to fix a problem with the clock on the navigation system. Simple enough, I thought. So I called the dealer on Monday and made an appointment for yesterday. I arrived 2 minutes before my set appointment time. so far so good… Then one of the service guys told me that it would take 3 hours. Excuse me, I said. Yep, I heard him right. So I kept my opinion to myself and asked if they could give me a loaner. They did, and I drove it home to work there and wait. At 4 hours, when I had not heard from them, I called. I was told that it was almost done, and he would call me when it was. I am still breathing and using the magic words that my mother taught me – Please and Thank You! I finally called them because they never did call me, and 6 1/2 hours after I dropped it off, I got my car back. When I was there, what I really wanted to do was choke the living %*&@#* out of someone. What I did was say thank you and wish them a nice evening – all the while smiling because I still get to do the follow up survey today or tomorrow…
Oh, and the principle is Brotherly Love (and progress not perfection fits in there, too.)
Posted by Chris